As a feeding therapist, I see it all the time—parents being reassured that their child will "just grow out of it" while they struggle at every mealtime. But the truth is, picky eating isn’t always just a phase. Sometimes, it’s a sign of a deeper issue that needs attention.

If your child is showing any of these red flags, it might be time to dig a little deeper:

🚩 Extreme Food Selectivity

Is your child avoiding entire food groups or refusing specific textures? Many children have food preferences, but when they consistently reject whole categories of foods (like proteins, fruits, or vegetables), it could indicate sensory aversions or underlying feeding challenges.

🚩 Growth Concerns

Poor weight gain, slow growth, or signs of nutrient deficiencies (like pale skin, low energy, or brittle nails) could mean that your child isn't getting enough of what they need nutritionally. Picky eating that affects growth and development should never be ignored.

🚩 Mealtime Battles

Do meals feel like a constant struggle? Tantrums, anxiety, and stress around food can signal deeper issues. If your child dreads mealtimes or if you feel like you have to bribe, beg, or force bites, it's time to reassess their feeding journey.

🚩 Gagging or Swallowing Issues

Frequent gagging, difficulty swallowing, or sensitivity to certain food textures can be signs of sensory processing issues or oral motor challenges. Some children have trouble coordinating the muscles needed to chew and swallow, making mealtimes frustrating or even scary.

🚩 Could It Be ARFID?

More than just picky eating, Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) is an eating challenge where a child’s fear of certain foods, textures, or eating experiences significantly impacts their nutrition, growth, and social interactions. If your child’s food avoidance seems extreme, this may be a concern worth exploring.

You’re Not Alone—And You Don’t Have to Figure It Out Alone

If any of these signs sound familiar, know that support is available. Feeding struggles can feel isolating, but with the right guidance, your child can develop a healthy relationship with food and improve their nutrition and mealtime experiences.

A feeding therapist can help identify what’s behind your child’s food struggles and create a plan that works for your family. Early intervention makes a difference!

👉 Need help? I offer free consultations to help you understand the next steps. Reach out today to get started!